Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says, "common themes surfaced again and again."
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Je voudrais avoir eu le courage de vivre ma vie , une vie qui qui me ressemble , et pas la vie que les autres attendaient de moi  ( C'est le regret le plus courant , tous ces rêves qu'on na pas réalisés parce qu'on s'est laissé influencé par l'entourage ou les circonstances environnantes )

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.      Je voudrais n'avoir pas tant travaillé  ( C'est un des regrets des hommes qui réalisent qu'ils ont loupé l'enfance de leurs enfants , pas assez profité de l'affection des leurs )
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. 
Je voudrais avoir eu le courage d'exprimer mes sentiments ( Beaucoup de gens ne s'expriment pas pour avoir la paix . Ils vivent alors une existence médiocre , ne deviennent pas qui ils sont réellement et beaucoup développent suite à ça des maladies liées au stress et au ressentiment qu'ils ont trimballés)
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Je voudrais être resté plus en contact avec mes amis ( Les mourants se rendent comlpte qu'ils ont laissé des amis en or sortir de leur vie . Tous regrettent de n'avoir pas plus honoré leurs amis )
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Je voudrais m'être permis d'être plus heureux ( vieux schémas, habitudes, peurs du changement et peurs  diverses , besoin de confort font que beaucoup de gens se rendent compte trop tard que le bonheur c'est un choix .)
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."
What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
Et vous quel est votre plus grand regret jusqu'à maintenant et qu'allez-vous faire à ce sujet avant de mourir ?